I should be happy

The most important thing to realise about being happy is that it is “how” not “what.” Things will not make you happy. Affluenza—coined as the dogged pursuit of “more”—is particularly prevalent in Western societies and will often be pursued at the risk of “overload, debt, and anxiety.” An awareness of this behaviour can stop us from falling into its clutches—more does not make people happy and Professor Leper of Stanford University found, paradoxically, too much choice actively makes people unhappy.

Happiness won’t arrive, it has to be cultivated.

Only behaviour and its consequences will make you happy. Being happy requires you to work your “how” muscles and to be aware; you need to consciously focus on the good things and not the bad. This is not to bury your head in the sand, some things need to be faced up to, but you need to focus on those things you can have agency over.

To be happy you need to concentrate on the following:

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Your emotions are valid.

Worry only about things you can change. Do as much as you can and then park it. Accept you have done the maximum and then leave it alone. We are not

i should be happy but theres this sadness

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